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Your gut…can you trust it?

Your gut…can you trust it?

“Just trust your gut.” This triggered me as a new mum. I couldn’t hear my gut through the chaos of having a new born, being sleep deprived, having breastfeeding problems and my body healing after human exiting it. It came with time. Time and compassion in bucket...

Comparison is the thief of Motherhood

Comparison is the thief of Motherhood

I’m 6 months in and I have NEVER compared myself to others as much as I have done in the last 6 months.

This person is flying it…. That person’s baby sleeps like a dream…. That girl over there has this nailed…..

Why is that?

I’ve learnt about motherhood from a sociological perspective but now I’m living it and holy shit balls. Learning about something and living it – two very different things. I obviously know that. But now I knoooow that.

Half the time I feel like what I suspect Alice must have felt like when she fell down that rabbit hole. However, if you follow that story through, she had a pretty wild adventure. And I relate to that too.

But so where the does all this comparison come from?

Dr. Sophie Brock, a sociologist in Motherhood Studies says “We have been conditioned to internalise the patriarchal, social and cultural beliefs around what it means to be a good mother.” The Perfect Mother Myth.

These beliefs are deeply, deeply ingrained in our society and are basically unhelpful rules we as mothers must adhere to in order to be considered, and consider ourselves, to be good mothers. This is big stuff.

Further to that she states “comparison can be a way to berate ourselves into being a better mother.” Ah. Clever.

‘It’s not necessarily the comparing thought that’s the issue, but rather the feeling of guilt and shame that follows’. – right. And no better way to ensure compliance. Guilt and shame are long used forms of social control.

Motherhood – it’s an extremely loud arena. And as new mum, who like us all is learning daily on the bounce, it has been harder to drown out the noise than I ever expected.

Okay, so what can we do about this comparison then?

First, we must recognise that we cannot resist what we cannot see.

So, grab a pen and paper and write down:

1. What do you currently believe you should be doing in order to consider yourself a good enough mum.
2. Challenge any thoughts that are creating shame or any feelings of not good enoughness. Where do those thoughts or images come from?
3. Could you then create your own image of what a happy, content and good enough mother is?

My intention for 2022 is rebuild what my own beliefs are around all this.

I don’t think it’ll happen overnight but what I wish for me as a new mum, and all the mums out there, is to mother my little love like no-ones watching.

Lisa xx

The antidote to mom guilt

The antidote to mom guilt

Mom guilt   Mom guilt. I think it’s fair to say that most women have heard this term. But what is it and why does it happen? Research shows that mom guilt tends to happen most when a mother has aligned herself closely to the Perfect Mother Myth. Briefly, the...

The subtleties of Mom shaming

The subtleties of Mom shaming

Dr Joe Dispenza recently posted a video on Instagram stating that a child’s emotional state begins in the womb, that ‘how the woman perceives her environment, will shape and mould her child to face the same environment the mother is perceiving.’  While there may be...

Welcome to Unveiling Motherhood

Welcome to Unveiling Motherhood

Welcome to my first article in Unveiling Motherhood and thank you for being here with me. If any of these topics I'm going to discuss here resonate with you, my hope then is to that they will bring about hope, inspiration and possibly a new lense and perspective to...

To know yourself, is to think for yourself.

To know yourself, is to think for yourself.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over my years as a human, a big personal development fan and from speaking with people on a deep level it’s this; in one way we are absolutely and completely unique creatures, and in another way, we are devastatingly all the same! I...

The world is quiet now, can you hear yourself speak?

The world is quiet now, can you hear yourself speak?

I recently went on a two week trip to California, on my own. A 36 year old, married woman, travelling on her own, staying in hostels. I had the time of my life! It was on this trip I learned a lot about myself. I learned that I am made up of some really great stuff,...

Are you a ‘real’ business owner yet?

Are you a ‘real’ business owner yet?

It’s 2014, I am at a dreaded networking event and the sweat is rolling down my back. I’m two years in ‘business’ now. I have a bunch of Vistaprint business cards in my hand at the ready, praying that no one asks me for one. That was the story...

Is your WHY game STRONG enough?

Is your WHY game STRONG enough?

It wasn’t for my love for waxing that I decided to leave my decently paid corporate job and set up my small hair removal business in the middle of a recession. No no, that wasn’t it. Seven years later it’s still not my love for waxing that gets me out of bed and into...

Do you let it all hang out in your business?

Do you let it all hang out in your business?

I was recently in the coolest little coffee shop in Alicante, Spain. Found it on Trip Advisor, drawn to it by its high ranking and picture of pancakes with mention of a diary free option. The minute I walked in I knew whoever...

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